Questions to Consider

Below are general questions to consider regarding how you think and what you believe about people, about kids, about problems and about change. These questions are rhetorical and meant for reflection; they do not include an answer. They are simply designed to help you better work through assumptions, biases and beliefs that we all grow up having if not challenged, in order to help you find the honest place. 

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1.    What makes a person good?

2.   What makes a person bad? Immoral? 

3.   If one person is bad, are all persons bad? If so, why? If not, why not?

4.   If a person is considered bad or immoral, what determines who and when someone   

      becomes bad or becomes immoral?

5.   What is it that you believe about kids? 

6.   What makes us human? 

7.   How do you make sense of your child's behavior? Or the behavior of others? 

8.   How do you make sense of your own behavior...why you do what you do? Or can you make

      sense of your own behavior?

9.   Can people change?

10.  If so, what does change look like?

11.   What determines change?

12.  How do you know if someone has changed?

13.  How do you know if someone hasn't change?

14.  What information informs you about people, about problems, about change? 

15.  What rights do kids have?

16.  What rights do you have?

17.  What responsibilities do kids have?

18.  What responsibilities do you have?

19.  What do kids need?

20. What do kids deserve?

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How you think and believe about these questions will determine how you intervene with your child? Oftentimes, we parent out of how we have been parented. Our experience shapes how we think and how we believe. Out of our experience we develop assumptions, beliefs and biases that if unchallenged drive what we do.